By Alison
“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
— Rumi
More Than a Holiday
With Valentine’s Day approaching, I felt a pull to write about something deeper than candy hearts, greeting cards, and roses. Something truer than a single day designated to celebrate love. This is not a rejection of Valentine’s Day itself, but rather an invitation to look beyond it—to understand that love is not seasonal, scheduled, or limited by calendars.
Valentine’s Day was never my favorite holiday. Love should not be confined to one day a year. And for those who celebrate Sweetest Day, even two days don’t feel sufficient. Love is meant to be lived, practiced, and honored daily—in the quiet moments, the ordinary routines, the unseen sacrifices, and the sacred connections we form with one another.
Love is not a performance. It is a presence.
Watching Love From the Outside
Before my life changed, before love found me in a way I never expected, I was single and living in Raleigh, North Carolina. One of my closest friends and I had a small ritual we shared. We would go out to dinner, sit at the bar, order drinks, and quietly observe the room. We would speculate—who was newly in love, who was on a first date, who was married, and who was just trying to survive an awkward evening out.
It was harmless and lighthearted, but there was truth in it too. Love has an energy. You can see it on people. You can feel it in the way they lean toward one another, how their laughter softens, how the world fades away when they lock eyes.
Yet even as I observed love all around me, I never truly saw myself finding “the one.” Marriage wasn’t something I envisioned for my future. It wasn’t resistance—it just wasn’t part of the picture I carried for myself. I did, however, know I wanted children. And at some point, those two desires required reconciliation.
So, reluctantly but curiously, I signed up for eHarmony.
When the Soul Recognizes Before the Mind
There is a saying we hear often: love never dies. Many people repeat it, but few stop to consider what it truly means. Love does not survive simply because we remember someone. It does not live on through objects they left behind, photographs tucked away in drawers, or stories retold at holidays.
Love survives because it is not bound to this lifetime.
When I first saw David’s picture on eHarmony, something shifted instantly. There was no logical explanation. No long list of pros and cons. No hesitation. I knew—deeply and immediately—that he was the one I was meant to be with.
I dropped all communication with anyone else. I wasn’t cautious or guarded. I didn’t feel the need to protect myself from disappointment. I simply knew. And that knowing didn’t come from my mind—it came from somewhere much older.
Later, a memory resurfaced that stunned me. Years before we met, I had been in Seagrove, North Carolina, visiting pottery shops. In one of them, I noticed a man come in briefly with his brother. I remember thinking, That looks like a good man. Someone who would make a wonderful husband – why can’t I find someone like that? He was in and out quickly, and I thought nothing more of it.
Until years later—when David told me his family owned that pottery shop.
Coincidence? Some would say yes. I don’t believe in coincidence. I believe in alignment. I believe in divine timing. I believe that the Universe, God, or Creator gently places breadcrumbs along our path long before we realize we’re being guided. I was meant to see him in his natural setting, and allow those thoughts to come forward - to invite him into my life.
Love Beyond the Physical World
When David passed away, my world collapsed. Grief doesn’t simply take someone from you—it takes the version of yourself you were when they were alive. It strips away your future plans. It creates a world of confusion and I was lost. All I wanted was connection to him. I needed to know what happened. I needed to know where he was. I needed to know if love truly survives death.
On the one-year anniversary of his passing, I met with a medium. And then again the next year. And the next. Each session brought comfort, clarity, and confirmation—but also awakened something within me.
Eventually, I began working on my own intuitive abilities—often referred to as the clairs.
Understanding the Clairs
The word clairs is short for clair senses—intuitive ways we receive spiritual information beyond the physical realm. These include clairvoyance (seeing), clairaudience (hearing), clairsentience (feeling), claircognizance (knowing), and others. They are not gifts reserved for a select few. Everyone has them and capable of using their clairs.
Spirit is always around us. Guidance is always available. The challenge is not access—it is interpretation. Learning to trust what you receive takes time, patience, and willingness to listen beyond logic.
As my clairs developed, my understanding of love deepened.
When Love Transforms, Not Ends
Once I began connecting directly with spirit, my world transformed. I didn’t just receive guidance—I experienced a renew relationship. I was able to communicate with loved ones who had passed, with my ancestors, and with David.
He didn’t disappear when he left this physical world. He transitioned.
David continues to guide me, encourage me, and walk beside me as I step into new chapters of my life. And what became clear through this connection was something even more profound: this was not our first lifetime together.
Our souls have met many times before.
In some lifetimes, he was my partner. In others, my protector. In others, my guide. Sometimes we walked together in physical form. Other times, in spirit. His love for me did not diminish with death—it expanded.
Love does not weaken when it leaves the body. It becomes freer.
Signs From the Other Side
I understand that not everyone believes in this. And belief is not required. Openness is.
If you have lost someone you love, ask them for a sign. Speak it out loud. Be specific. Ask for something unmistakable—a purple cat, a blue dog, an elephant balancing on a ball. Spirit hears you.
David sends me cardinals.
They appear unexpectedly—sitting in the woods when I least anticipate it, crossing my path at meaningful moments. One year, a cardinal even built a nest on the wreath hanging on my front door. These moments are not random. They are communication.
Love speaks in symbols when words are no longer available.
You Are Never Alone
If you have lost someone and feel alone, I want you to hear this clearly: you are not alone. Not now. Not ever.
Talk to them. Speak their name. Include them in your life. They are not gone—they are present in a different form. Waiting. Listening. Loving you still.
Love does not end with death. It does not fade with time. It does not disappear between lifetimes.
Love is eternal.
And if Valentine’s Day reminds us of anything, let it be this: love is not something we lose—it is something we carry forward, now and always.
Channeled message from Loved Ones and Spirit:
Love never dies it continues on through lifetimes. Souls are meant to meet, find each other and connect. They work together to find life purpose and help develop and further each other in this life time. They have lessons to learn and sometimes those lessons are about love and how it transcends. Never feel alone always connect through your heart space and listen – they are there with you.
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